So, having that space for yourself or with a group of friends or with a therapist to be able to explore that fantasy space is where I’d start. So many of us have fantasies but it’s in the interpretation or valuation of our fantasies that a lot of people get caught up. He previously told Elite Daily that, when his clients are introducing any new form of play into the bedroom - whether it’s anal or toys or anything else - he emphasizes “the process of learning to be comfortable with your fantasies. If the idea of back-door fun gets you excited but you’re feeling nervous about trying anal sex for the first time, Luke Thao, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate (LMFTA) and member of the PNW Sex Therapy Collective based in Seattle, says you’re not alone. Anal can also be a kinky alternative to vaginal, oral, and manual sex, or a kinky way to give or receive double the pleasure. Maybe anal sex is your main or only option, because of your anatomy or because of vaginal discomfort. Anal sex is a bit like a roller-coaster: exciting for some, nerve-wracking for others, and an experience with so much fun potential.
